Posted on 12/11/2011 4:10 AM
I believe it does!
Great news about the baby ;-)
Posted on 12/11/2011 4:00 AM
That is why the DEA keeps on repeating the mantra of the moment,
Working for even one hour will make you feel like life is worthwhile.
'doing cleaning is better than feeling worthless'
Its all about quality of life, work will give you a value in society.
I am a volunteer and i am a mother, something i had to work very hard to get back after my accident. I am not worthless, i have a place in society, i give my time whenever i can without the worry of letting people down, without the fear of being sacked, without the feeling of being irresponisble. I give as much as i am able,when i am able. This can vary from morning to afternoon nevermind day to day or week to week.
It took me about 5 years to reach this point, so 13 weeks of support would be a very small ineffective drop in the ocean and a complete waste of thier rescources. I am on ESA but i have been found not fit to work. Which says to prospective employers- not fit to work. That works well then. I am expected to do voluntry work for upto 20 hours a week, maybe moving into permitted work and earning 95 pound ontop of the benefit, but the benefit stops after 12 months. I will not be found to have made a miraculous recovery in that time. I will still have the same difficulties, i will still meet the criteria for being sick enough to recieve the benefit, but i worked so i cant have have it after a year. Will i still get support from the DEA if i dont qualify anymore? will they activley seek a supportive employer?
Mine keeps asking why i dont have the other benefits that i could get, like carers. Replacing the money lost on one benefit with another benefit.
Posted on 11/11/2011 6:12 AM
I know just how it feels.
I know everyone will say its not your fault, you shouldnt blame yourself ...but you do, i do. I know i didnt intend to get a brain injury lose my job, house, etc... but i still feel guilty.
My daughter is now 16 and is still being seen by the childrens mental health team. When i hear her say she cant see a future and wont make real relationships as everyone she cared about either died or got badly hurt, it hurts me. I feel responsible for her pain. She says its not about me and my saying that or crying makes it worse for her as it makes her feel guilty for upsetting me and making it worse.
I am glad that they have health proffessionals on board who will help them understand thier issues, please dont think it will be a quick fix though.
Just be there for her and talk openly. If she self harms then show her how to keep it clean and dry, talk to her about why, but dont push. Ive found now that she will talk but it has taken a long time.
I felt awful, i still do but i know i am a good mum when i can be. Im the best mum i can be when im not.
My daughter withdrew for almost 2 and a half yrs, and came back gradually in her own time. Just love her for what she is and tell her that.
Be kind to yourself
Posted on 11/11/2011 5:55 AM
My heart fell when i saw another article on how disabled people are costing the 'tax payer' so much. The wifey from tax payer alliance wants the fraud to stop... i suggest she looks to the other people de frauding the system.
At least the majority of comments are from disabled people and careres that are shooting the article down in flames, about time too. Maybe the its time to reap what they have been sowing for months...the worm has turned..About time too.
Posted on 05/11/2011 5:42 AM
not read as i had meant. It was sarcasm/irony.... thats why it says NO ONE dependant on welfare should be made scapegoat.
Posted on 05/11/2011 5:34 AM
How can they keep moving the goal posts and changing the rules just to suit themselves? It is not the fault of the poor that the cpi has climbed so high, and it is less than the RPI which the benefit increases used to follow. It is hammering the poor once again. The man needs a big dose of reality.
I see they are protecting the pensioners but not the disabled. Maybe the single mums need to pay the price of the government failiure or the other workshy scrounging groups. Its all crap. No one should be made the scapegoat, least of all the people dependant on welfare, When will they understand that welfare is not a lifestyle choice.
I am so angry. fed up. cheesed off. annoyed. do you get the gist?...
Posted on 27/10/2011 8:24 AM
my JCP is not so much better. After this weeks interview it was eventually decided that maybe i should do 16 hrs volunteering as i cant do the other jobs they suggested. I have said i would like to do something from 10-2 on mon weds fri as it gives me resting time and these are my most able hours. When i told him i couldnt do on suggested placement as i wasnt allowed to cook at home unless there is someone else here, or even have a bath unless someone is here etc, Hmmm says he, i dont know what im supposed to find you to do, work from home? Maybe its becuase head injuries cant be seen? who knows. try to explain limitations but always seems to alter it to suit them. Frustrating. Mind you im on ESA not JSA (for another 10 months).
Posted on 21/10/2011 2:13 PM
Both myself and my mum have done the GP exersice route. My mum was 27 stone and barley mobile. 3 years later and she is 18 stone and walking. She did resistance work at first and then when the time came to try the bike/treadmill could not manage. I thought she would give up but she did carry on doing the eating plan prescribed by the hospital dietician. She started to join me in the referal aqua class. It was touch and go for the first few weeks but the social side meant she wanted to keep going. She has yet to go back to the gym but does still do the aqua with me every tuesday. This summer she started to walk with us for the first time, the kids rode her scooter till she needed it and gradually she built up the distance, as her legs have grown stronger she has found the pool a lot easier.
It is all done in small baby steps and you must congratulate yourself on each little progression, even if that is not putting anything on for months when you plataue.
It can be done, mum is past 60 and had a bucket full of meds, she has gradually come off them and now does not get more than one carrier bag a month!!
Posted on 21/10/2011 1:01 PM
We have oil heating but it need leccy, we do have a log burning stove in the lounge and i can cook on that if the gas freezes again.
We are always stocked up for winter, including yukky uht milk because its better than nothing.
Having been stuck on the farm for 2 weeks last year on two separate occasions we are prepared.
I got out the board games and playing cards and anything else that didnt require leccy to ammuse the kids but they spent so long playing outside we didnt get too much time to play!!
Worse thing to loose is the hot water, although if we have leccy we can have a shower...but then if we had leccy we would also have hot water..DHU!!
Posted on 18/10/2011 2:10 PM
I need to order oil, heating has been on full for two days, well it was my birthday yesterday! If i get a fill now (around 1100 litres) i will need another by December and again in Feb. This is usually topped up in June/July with another 500 litres for the hot water etc. The predicted price for later this year is £1 a litre. It could be a very expensive winter for me this year.
Posted on 17/10/2011 6:50 AM
Fairy sparkle i'm sorry you have had to put up with other peoples mindless opinions. I too had that, i ws offered a termination on my first appointment, infact it was the first thing the consultant said to me, before even introducing himslef. Thought less and un warranteed. I have a brother with multiple disabilities, so of course that means that my babies are at greater risk ? I was also on medication for my disabilities which could have caused problems, i was also on the pill when i concieved, So many things that could have caused problems but didnt.
My daughter was small for dates but that was probably down to stress among other things. She is a very tall, very clever and very independant young lady.
My sons were a lot bigger and i still had same health problems and meds on board (including the pill).
My friend from school had a baby a year ago at 38, everything was good exept the nursing staff insisting on calling her an older mother and being at greater risk. Another school friend had a forth baby a year ago, she was also refered to as an at risk older mother. She did develop diabetes in the last 4 weeks and both baby and mum were fine.
Sometimes i think they get excited at the prospect of dealing with someone outside the normal run of the mill, they then hit the text books to see what MIGHT happen according to the odd past case which sounds SIMILAR to your situation. No 2 persons are the same, so it would only give them a rough idea of problems may arise. I think they forget the human element i.e. you, and that you have feelings.
Make sure you cry and get it out of your system and ask the doctors to be a bit more mindful of you. Get a nice hug from your other half and dont keep things bottled up. Enjoy your baby xx
Posted on 17/10/2011 6:10 AM
Our abmulatory care centre (out patients, day surgery, phsio etc) is free for everyone to park, The city hospital is payment for everyone, The disabled parking is £2 and the rest is done on a hourly rate. Its been this way for some time.
Posted on 17/10/2011 6:01 AM
Its quite chilly here up north, ive got my heat pad on and my dog at my side. I had the heating on in the mornings for the past few days, ive also had it on on the odd evening. Today my fingers are stiff my back is giving me greif old fractures are aching, cold wet and miserable. There is supposed to be some more snow on the hills this week too.
I used to love autumn so much and still enjoy the pots of soup and stew, curling up with a good book, kids being in more than out, and the inevitable run up to a chaotic christmas season full of concerts and choirs etc.
I have to be careful of having the heating on when im alone in the house at this time of year as we will need the oil for when it gets really cold. I'm dreading the costs this year as the predicted weather is terrible and extremely cold.
Posted on 14/10/2011 1:56 PM
Just saw that bloke little jons page has a piece about emails calling him disablist, then goes on again about the mobility cars free for all..... what an arse.
If thats his version of an appollogy then he needs to go back to nursey and learn how to do it properly.
(forgive the spelling, its late!)
Posted on 14/10/2011 11:16 AM
Can i be a virtual auntie to all these wee babies? My Daughter tells me there is no way she is ever ever ever going to have children as they are too much responsibility and she doesnt want children no way no how ever.....'i mean eeewww you have to do IT to get them and then its like a parasite feeding off you and then people poking in places they shouldn#t be..Yuk!' (she is 16 and planning a career in forensic anthropology)
Posted on 14/10/2011 10:54 AM
Could you manage to sit on an exercise ball? this was the instrument of torture given to me by the physios!!
Posted on 14/10/2011 10:52 AM
9 months is a little optimistic, it took 18 months for a friend of mine to get her tribunal and back payment. This is really ridiculous. You would only be appealing if you are not fit to work. Someone should remind them about protecting the vunerable speech waffled by Cameron.
Posted on 12/10/2011 2:44 PM
I love babies!! I had 3 and survived, and so did they!!
I used the washing up bowl, top and tail bowl thingy was a god send. I did use my baby box as it was easy to keep everything together. I had a baby nest down stairs, a carry cot on the pram and a cot and baby nest upstairs... the nests were second hand with new matressess. When little lady was tiny she looked like something from exorsist and could cover a wall at twenty yards with second hand milk. So it was easier to have a back up clean bed to put baby in when mopping up. Even when she wasnt sick if her nappy leaked it was great to have a clean bed for her, especially when i was so tired.
Babies dont need a hundred outfits a day and the fussier they are the more difficult to wash and iron.
I got wipes by the ton as they clean a multiple of sins, have dentinox or other colic drops before the baby get colic for the first time, usually at 3am on sunday morning on a bank holiday weekend... Like a girl guide Be Prepared!
I had intended to feed purly at the breast, i unfortunately had a back problem made worse with pubis symphis dysfunction and i had to have heafty drugs, Then there was a mad rush to get bottles steriliser milk powder etc.
I had more difficulty with my own hygeine than with looking after the baby. Having someone to do the donkey work and bath watch for you is a god send.
Dont try to be super human, baby just needs food, clean bum, and sleep for a good few months. Anything else doesnt really matter that much.
Enjoy your babies!!
Posted on 12/10/2011 2:21 PM
I went to visit my friend who is also going thru the same jaunts, she was refered to triage.
The bloke at the JCP said that route would entail a phone call once a month or so and then a work related programme but not to worry as no one is trying to force you into work..
So she had a phone call and then recieved aletter stating that she was having an initital interview etc etc. Then in bold type it said you must be prepared to do a one hour job search following this interview.
This is not what either of us were led to believe, the job centre would not let her go onto JSA as she was too sick to work, now after an 18 month battle to get the ESA she is being pressured into job searching for work she is not fit to do.
This is nuts.
Posted on 10/10/2011 4:17 PM
I've fallen out with the hawk. i got a lump out of my finger when feeding him. i wasnt even in the mews, he got me thru the wire... little so and so. Told the blokey he can do the bird himself from now on.(first time i ever told him he has free reign with a bird ;-)
Meanwhile the bat sh1t crazy spaniel had me in stiches when i took her into the field, she was jumping about with tongue lolling out the side of her mouth, ears flapping up and down and tail going round like a helicopter, she saw some deer and stopped mid flight and fell over her front legs and ended up doing a rolly polly.
Bob our hamster seems to have developed dry skin, its kind of scaley around his shoulders, not sure if he is reacting to different cleaner used on his cage this weekend.
Animals are so entertaining, they calm me and i love them so much, even when they do bite/nip/claw me!
